Tuesday, September 8, 2009

I'm THAT mom...

School has started, we are on day 4 & the hand washing immediately when they walk through the door has paid off. So far. All these reports of H1N1 hitting fast & hard on college campuses has me worried.

So when we went to "Back To School Night" before school started to meet our teachers & drop off our supplies, I became "THAT MOM."

To the 3rd grade teacher that I don't know yet, I wasn't sure what family history she was aware of.

"So... (wait for it)... my only concern (wait for it).... is really what my daughter could bring home (here it comes).... I mean in terms of illness. You see, our youngest..." insert quick synopsis of Charlotte here & a brief mention of her immune suppressant drugs, her monthly visits to the hospital & eye exams. Try to do it fast, don't lose her in the details, but emphasize your point of concern again.... KIDS. GERMS. PARENTS!!
I tried to chuckle & make light of a heavy situation so I wasn't "THAT MOM." But the truth is... I am. I admitted it to myself that I am that mom because its my job AS their mom. My point: I want kids to stay home if they aren't feeling well. I want parents to know that pushing their child out the door if they haven't been cleared of a fever for 24 hours, puts my ill-child at risk. Just by exposing Charlotte's sibling to the germs of 3rd grade, can cause a "bring home & share" affect. Charlotte's sisters have strong immune systems & healthy bodies, they can blow through cold season without a sneeze. But Charlotte's immune system is soooo outta whack, it doesn't know if its coming or going. Any little thing coming in contact with her can throw her off. "The Girl In the Bubble" isn't an option, believe me, I looked into it (again, please insert laugh here).

So I hope to share ourselves more with our 3rd grade teacher, so she knows that we are not obsessive compulsive. We have a good sense of humor & an understanding of carpe diem. Our lives have just been rocked a little & we are always on a bit of a teeter totter with Charlotte's health. Anything to keep her above water... is sooo appreciated. H1N1 is not on our side & we want to keep it out THERE.

We have 2 eye appts before her next round of remicade. To see if that one cell was just a wacky thing or see if he's brought friends. We had an excellent visit with our pediatric rheumatologist at our last Remicade infusion & we are prepared if tomorrow's eye exam shows more than one cell, what direction to go and what that could mean. I don't want to throw that vibe out there, so for now, we will keep positive thoughts that the one cell is still a lonely cell or he's gone away. We will know tomorrow.

And this girl sleeping.... We want that girl back & are crossing our fingers for tonight! She's gone through 2 very restless nights of night terrors that are sooo freaky. I can be right in front of her & she's still screaming that bees are flying all around her. We are hoping that 3rd night breaks the cycle. Is she coming down with something? Is she sleep deprived, water deprived, stressed, body stressed? Its all out there being examined & we are trying to figure it out for her so can sleep well & have good days!


Jenny Tan said...

Thumbs up for being "THAT mom" - or whatever people wanna "label" it. As parents, we gotta go what we gotta do to protect our kids, take care of them.

Sweet Dreams to Charlotte :)

Lesli said...


I am SO THAT MOM!! I know I worry too much about what people will think when I explain everything to them. I go over and over in my head about what I will say and how I will say it. My husband thinks I am crazy because afterall we are only looking out for our children's well being!

I hate ALWAYS asking if children are sick before Ayla can play with them. Most parents "GET IT" but a few really don't understand!

Everyone always asks about what we will do about pre-school, school etc..good question, I am not sure myself. Hopefully that will become more clear as that time approaches!

Great post, I feel exactly the same and for the time being we will be "That Mom".

Have a great weekend, I hope Charlotte's eyes are okay~!